It is only natural that if something comes out then something goes in as well. Talking about it can help.
It is true that talking about sex and sexuality in Pakistan is still taboo. On the other hand acquiring information and educating yourself about sexuality is always prudent in order to protect yourself and make informed choices. The topic of sexuality is fluid. Even experts and researchers find it hard to pin it down to one thing. A major part of the sexuality is about sex and sexual intercourse both. Sex in terms of sexuality is so much more than intercourse and penetration. Sex can include kissing, fondling, foreplay and any other stimulation that can cause arousal. Similarly sexual intercourse under the umbrella of sexuality includes anal intercourse.
Pakistan still gasps for air whenever topics like these are touched because of strict religious and cultural constrictions. Additionally in a predominantly Muslim country, anal intercourse is a criminal offense. However, it doesn’t mean it is not happening. It is happening but being informed and protected during it is often seen as unnecessary.
Doing a thorough research and preparing yourself should be the first priority. Although it is usually associated with people of alternate sexuality i.e homosexuals, it is also pursued by straight people. Straight orientation is when people have attractions for the opposite sex only. Preparing for anal intercourse can be a scary and unfamiliar thing for some. Therefore, it is extremely necessary for you to do your homework. Read up as much as you can about it.
If you’re already reading and researching about it, then it may already have been decided between your partner and you that it’s going to happen. Anal intercourse medically is seen as unclean but there are ways to make it more hygienic. One of them is called douching. Douching involves taking stomach laxatives to relieve your intestines and rectum of any fecal matter to avoid embarrassment and medical issues later on. It’s better to have a clean back door!
Lets come to the most important aspect: lubrication and protection. Protect the head! Anal tissue does not have natural lubrication and if not done properly it can lead to tearing up of the muscle which can be extremely painful and uncomfortable to deal with. But a way around that is to use manufactured lubricants. The amount of lubrication does not matter, the more the better. You have to make sure that it is a good quality lubricant; don’t buy a cheap knock off to save yourself some cash. Talking about anal intercourse is often tricky and confusing, not to mention taboo. It is frowned upon in our culture and religion. Yet the irony is that it is still being performed. Insufficient knowledge and information often leads to injury and shame which can be avoided by having an open line of communication. Of course, this does not in any way mean pursuing it like a diehard fan. Do not be exploited or harassed by anyone into having anal intercourse. Your beliefs and ideals are your own and should be strong enough to counter unsolicited approaches. But it is necessary to have information and help readily at hand in all cases.
By: Shahnawaz Ramay